You are within your feels to judge. Judge away. (The definition of judge, is: form an opinion or conclusion about.) Use this as a tool to pluck the good from your opinion and expand on it. You have the choice to go down the rabbit hole and judge negatively. It will only affect you in the end. Positive or negative your opinion only affects you. The people you are following don’t see, hear or know what you’re feeling.

Is your judging coming from jealousy, envy and insecurity? Is your judging positive and encouraging to others?

We follow athletes, chefs, artist, musicians, moms, fashionistas or any other genre category you fall into. You may aspire to be like them for many reasons. You follow some that you like their post, leave comments and maybe even idolize them. Some, you roll your eyes and secretly judge, watching their numbers and seeing how many people support them.

It’s ok to look at others (artist in my case) and decide what you like about their style and what you don’t like. What you don’t like, you do not have to insult or belittle. That’s why the world is an amazing place. We are given the option of variety and have the choice to decide what we like. Use that as a inspiration or driving force. Just try not to let yourself feel insecure and dislike that person because you feel threatened.

First… Stop comparing yourself. You are just as worthy!

Second… Go to the pages of the ones you love. Like and comment the same as you always do. Then, go find the ones you silent follow or may envy or be jealous of. Give them some likes and make a genuine comment. Watch how your mindset can change when you start to push your insecurities aside and compliment others instead of judging. That person you think is out of your league and better than you, may be sitting on their couch jealousy judging you because they think you are better than them.

Third… Go now. Don’t just swipe and like. Share something of theirs on your stories, it’s only there for 24 hours. Comment or sincerely compliment them.(SEE BLOG POST: Daily Strawberries) Even if they already have 1000 likes and 54 comments! (artist I follow… I’m coming for you!) I’m guilty of intensely looking, double tapping, admiring and moving on. This next week if you pop on my page I’m going to try and be more conscious of dropping something I love about it or an emoji! I know my hard work is appreciated when I get these so, it’s nice to show other you appreciate the level of work they put in.

And finally… what are you grateful for? Hyper focus your gratefulness towards yourself, things you love and to others! Be mindful daily of the things around you. It’s easy to overlook your accomplishments once they wear off. Example: I love my work, I bust my ass at it, I bought an adorable little house for me and my son that I filled with all the things that we need and that make me happy when I look around. Sometimes I can forget when I see it everyday. I often stop and look and re appreciate my old accomplishments. They are the ones propelling me to my next ones!