Sorry seems to have lost its luster. Apologies are now handed out like candy and have rules and a proper etiquette to them. I myself am guilty of starting conversations and messages with a sorry. Sometimes we need to step back and know it’s ok to not give a sorry or excuse for everything!

“Sorry I didn’t message back right away…” No. we need to stop this. If you are busy with life, work or your family, you don’t owe a sorry. You didn’t do anything wrong and that person on the other end is most likely fine with a little delay. Our phones are at our fingertips so an immediate response seems required.

“Sorry, I can’t make it I’m tired.” Or…. “Can’t make it, long week, pretty tired, I’m going to sit this one out, but you guys have fun!” No sorry needed!

“Sorry if I was laughing to loud and being crazy and goofy.” Why are we sorry for happiness….

Now.. the, I fucked up and owe an apology, sorry! These for sure have their place! If you or someone keeps apologizing for the same issue then your sorry loses its effectiveness.

I was told once… “If you have to keep apologizing for the same thing, then your sorry loses its worth and means nothing.”

If you allow someone to be a repeat offender (or if you’re the repeat offender) with any situation big or small, the sorry becomes a reset button for the same behavior to be repeated. Sorry I didn’t pay attention, sorry I cheated, sorry I lied, sorry I didn’t clean up after myself, sorry I didn’t flush, sorry I kicked your dog… If you truly apologize and feel remorse you will either, stop the act in question or make steps to not do said act again!!

Actions speak louder than fake sorries!

Then there is the flip side. Be unapologetically you! Own your mistakes, traits or personality. If you are not harming others emotionally or physically with who you are, don’t apologize for being you. I can be overly honest, but usually that’s only if you ask my opinion. If that hurts your feelings that means two things. Either I’m right and you feel guilty or I’m an asshole. But, you asked my opinion.

Be goofy, be weird, be honest, have fun, laugh the loudest, dance when there is no music, and when you do, don’t say sorry for enjoying life because someone else isn’t having fun! That’s for them to figure out for themselves. You can not make everyone happy and you can not be sorry for finding your happiness!