Is “We have nothing to talk about.” A valid statement? Each human has years of life with loads of things they have seen, heard, experienced or thought. Maybe, “We have nothing in common.” Or “We have a hard time connecting.” Seems more accurate, but I still think you can connect with anyone on some level.

Isn’t that what makes people great though? The fact that we are all soooo different! The fact that our brains think completely opposite, sometimes it’s hard to even fathom that people stand behind what they do and say, while your brain says… that’s not right. Ever notice how humans all connect on weather? We all experience rain, heat, snow cold fairly the same.. Skip the small talk and try a more meaningful topic next time.

When we meet someone new we compare and tell stories and are like.. me toooo! We try to relate so hard. Maybe this evolves as we get older. When we are younger we compare things like favorite colors to grasp at having something to chat about. It’s totally ok to have nothing in common and see things from another perspective. As we get older we drift into our own realm. We either, immediately like a person and want to connect OR are much too quick to judge.

This past year I’ve said yes to all kinds of new friends. Gals I’ve never hung out with that I’ve always admired. Fellas that were nice and not aggressive. (Hey, I’m not judging. For me I want a low key friend, guy or girl, to hang and chat, maybe eat some food. If you come at me saying let me take you out… most likely, I nicely declined because it stressed me out and I don’t know how to react) I’ve met some great new friends, connected with some old ones that meant the world to be able to chat or spend time with.

I’m not really one to judge. I’m normally the person that when you ask if I’m free, I’m in! I’m like the yes man. I try to stay open and have tried hard to listen to others before spouting my, me too story. Before I hang out with someone new I work myself up and think… What will we talk about when we meet in person? What if we just sit in silence? Then I start thinking of a million ice breakers or questions to ask if things are awkward. I believe this may be what they call social anxiety. I can literally make friends with anyone so I feel weird that I get this worked up for meeting one person or a group.

We are all pieces of one giant puzzle. All the pieces belong. We all have something in common, but sometimes, as much as we may want, we are not all made to click together!